Find purpose after 50 as an advocate for nursing home residents

By Stacy Moscotti

As I approach 50, I’ve noticed a shift in my perspective about how I want to spend my time and reflect on what I can contribute. I’m seeing a desire to contribute in a way that truly matters and makes a meaningful impact.

When my teenage daughter recently asked me if she could start volunteering at a nursing home after school, I felt a desire to join her (but, maybe not at the same time because, gosh, Mom, that’s so lame…or I think the kids call it mid now.).

So though we may be going at different times, I’m looking into becoming an advocate for
nursing home residents.

If you’re searching for purpose, advocating for nursing home residents can be a deeply fulfilling path. As people age, they often become vulnerable, and those in nursing homes can face neglect, isolation, and even abuse.

By stepping up as an advocate, you can be a voice for those who might otherwise go unheard, ensuring they receive the dignity and care they deserve. In my own life, I am aware of my desire to learn from my elders while they are here to impart their wisdom.

As I have finally reached an age where I am cognizant of my own hard-earned, gained-only-through-life-experience wisdom. It seems the senior community loses some of its ability to stand up and advocate for themselves through age, illness and, unfortunately, disrespect from those who cannot see their value as others do.

Why advocacy matters

Elderly residents in nursing homes rely on caregivers for their daily needs, but, unfortunately, understaffing, inadequate training and neglect can lead to subpar conditions or even abuse.

According to the National Center on Elder Abuse (NCEA), nearly 1 in 10 older adults experience some form of abuse, and many cases go unreported. As an advocate, I would play a crucial role in safeguarding residents’ rights, ensuring they are treated with respect, and holding facilities accountable.

Beyond addressing issues, advocacy can bring joy and companionship to nursing home residents. Many seniors suffer from loneliness, which negatively impacts their health. Simply showing up, listening, and advocating for improvements can make an enormous difference in their lives.

Bringing your own special gifts to your time with seniors is also highly encouraged. Some may do knitting. Some love playing cards. Personally, I love to sing so I could bring my guitar and sing with the residents.

How to get involved as an advocate

Becoming an advocate doesn’t require formal training — just a willingness to help and a compassionate heart. Here are a few ways to start:

• Visit nursing homes regularly: Spend time with residents, ask about their experiences, and observe the environment.
• Partner with advocacy organizations: Groups like the National Consumer Voice for Quality Long-Term Care provide resources and guidance for those wanting to get involved.
• Become a volunteer ombudsman: Ombudsmen are trained to investigate complaints and ensure the well-being of nursing home residents.
• Educate families and friends: Helping others understand what to look for and how to report concerns strengthens the network of support for seniors.

Recognizing signs of elder abuse

When visiting a nursing home, it’s essential to stay alert for signs of elder abuse, which can take many forms, including physical, emotional, financial, and neglect. Key indicators include:

• Physical abuse: Unexplained bruises, burns, bedsores, or sudden weight loss. Learn more about common injuries found in nursing homes.
• Emotional abuse: Fear, withdrawal, depression, or anxiety around caregivers.
• Financial exploitation: Missing personal items, unexplained financial transactions, or sudden changes in legal documents.
• Neglect: Unsanitary living conditions, poor hygiene, or unaddressed medical needs.

Mental health abuse is another critical, yet often overlooked, aspect of elder mistreatment. More information on mental health in nursing homes can help identify subtle warning signs. If you notice these warning signs, don’t dismiss them. Residents may be afraid to speak out, so their safety could depend on your intervention.

How to effectively report elder abuse

If you suspect abuse or neglect, taking immediate action is crucial. Here’s what you should do:

1. Document everything: Take notes on what you observe, including dates, times, and any statements from the resident or staff.
2. Report to nursing home administration: In some cases, concerns can be addressed internally, but follow-up to ensure action is taken.
3. Contact the Long-Term Care Ombudsman Program: Every state has an ombudsman program that investigates complaints and works to resolve issues.
4. Report to Adult Protective Services (APS): APS is responsible for investigating elder abuse cases and taking appropriate action.
5. Call law enforcement, if necessary: If you suspect immediate danger, don’t hesitate to call 911. For more information, check out this resource on nursing home abuse.

Make a difference

If you are looking for an extremely fulfilling way to make a difference, contribute to the lives of others, give back to the community, and discover the joy of connections as we age, spending time with seniors and simply using your voice to protect those who can’t always protect themselves is an excellent idea.

Advocating for nursing home residents not only helps ensure their safety and well-being but also enriches your own life with a sense of fulfillment. Whether through regular visits, reporting abuse, or becoming a trained volunteer, your involvement can make a lasting impact.

By stepping into this role, you become part of a larger movement dedicated to ensuring that all elderly individuals receive the care, respect, and dignity they deserve. We are dedicated to reducing the stigma around seeking help and providing valuable resources for mental health.