Riana Malia never expected to become a board-certified integrative neurosomatic practitioner and identity architect. As such, she helps women to heal their deepest wounds without having to relive them.
But, her journey through decades of grief, betrayal and survival taught her that healing doesn’t have to be painful, and it doesn’t have to take years to accomplish.
“I help women move forward without forcing them to go back into the pain,” Riana said. “The old approach of rehashing your story over and over again doesn’t heal anything. It actually keeps you stuck there.”
She learned that lesson the hard way. A self-described high-achiever, Riana spent much of her early life trying to prove her worth through performance. After her parents divorced when she was 2, Riana’s father eventually started a new family in California after she and her mother moved to Minnesota.
When her father promised to pay her college expenses, but failed to follow through, Riana quickly pivoted. At 18, she got three jobs, rented a five-bedroom house and filled it with roommates to pay her bills. It wasn’t the college experience she had imagined, but she managed.
Then she decided to get married at 22 out of fear she might never be loved. It may have not been the best timing in Riana’s life; however, the relationship produced her daughter, Madi.
“You don’t know who you are or who you’re not at that age,” Riana said. “It was a lonely marriage, but Madi was our miracle child. When she was 6, we separated and started the divorce process. However, the greatest gift of my life is getting to be Madi’s mama.”
Although the split was necessary, it triggered a deep grief Riana couldn’t ignore. She did everything women are told to do – therapy, journaling, self-help books and weekend workshops – but, nothing created real movement.
“I realized that while all those things are helpful, they keep you in the story. They don’t move you forward,” she said. “Every time you retell it, you re-traumatize yourself at a cellular level.”
That realization would later shape her coaching methodology. But first, she had to endure one of the darkest chapters of her life.
An unbelievable betrayal
Three years after the divorce, Riana’s father convinced her to move to California to help him run the family business. He promised to build a barn for Madi’s horses and even offered to bring Riana’s mother with them. Everything in her body screamed no, but she ignored her intuition. She wanted the dream as well as a fresh start by the ocean and a fairytale life for her daughter.
At first, it seemed perfect. There were family dinners, lakeside weekends and a chance to reimagine the business. But, Riana felt a growing unease. Six months later, the dream collapsed.
“I was in the back when I heard voices and saw men coming in with guns drawn,” she recalled. “I was put in handcuffs. They had been investigating my father for months.”
Although Riana had no knowledge of the criminal activity, she became a target of the investigation. The authorities froze the business assets, which eliminated her only source of income. Madi was nearly caught in the chaos as police swarmed the family property.
“It was traumatizing. And for years afterward, I lived in fear. Every time I heard a noise at night, I thought they were coming back for me,” she said.
Riana was never arrested and, eventually, her father was charged. But, she was left with debt, devastation and a choice to either move back to Minnesota or keep her promise to Madi.
“I had moved around a lot as a child and never felt grounded. I wanted something different for her,” she said. “So, we stayed. It cost hundreds of thousands of dollars, but we stayed.”
Rebuilding with purpose
To survive, Riana earned a real estate license. Then she transitioned to coaching realtors, drawing on her earlier experience leading oncology practice development in Minnesota.
Still, the trauma lingered. She found herself in a new relationship that quickly turned emotionally abusive.
“I knew from the beginning it wasn’t right, but I didn’t trust myself,” she said. “I believed I wasn’t lovable, that no one else would want me.”
After escaping that relationship, Riana went all-in on training that would finally help her heal for good. She became a board-certified neurosomatic practitioner and master coach in trauma-conscious modalities including neuro-linguistic programming, quantum time release and timeline therapy.
“I found something that not only helped me heal, but changed my life completely,” she said. “I knew I had to help others do the same.”
Clear, create and claim
Today, Riana works exclusively with private clients, and most of them are high-achieving women over 40 who are tired of repeating the same patterns in love, career and self-worth. She calls her process the “Clear to Create Method.”
“We have to clear the story before we can create the life,” she explained. “That means getting rid of the unconscious wiring and emotional baggage that keeps people stuck.”
Her work is based on the science of the unconscious mind. While the conscious brain sets goals, the unconscious body is the operating system and the place where emotional memory is stored.
“Memory is cellular. When you recall something painful, that’s why your body reacts as if it’s happening again,” Riana said. “You can’t just talk your way out of it. You have to rewire it.”
She developed a three-phase system called the “Quantum Pattern Protocol.” First, clear the cycles, patterns, loss and emotions. Second, create new neural pathways, belief systems and desires. Third, claim the life and identity you’ve been afraid to embrace.
“The claim phase is about integration and embodiment,” she said. “It’s when you finally stop needing external permission and start trusting yourself again.”
Healing that doesn’t take years
One thing that surprises Riana’s clients is how fast the process can work. Her intensive program includes eight sessions, and many women see dramatic change in just a few weeks.
“People think it has to take years, but it doesn’t,” she said. “I’ve helped women transform their relationships, start new businesses, heal their bodies and rewrite decades of patterns in a matter of weeks.”
She also developed the Extraordinary Love Index (ELI). It is a 40-question diagnostic that reveals where people are blocked in self-love, relationships or clarity. It comes with a personalized 28-page report and practical steps to move forward.
“I created the ELI because everyone deserves love, whether that’s self-love, romantic love or love for the life they’re building,” she explained.
Living a life she truly deserved
Today, Riana is living a life she once believed was out of reach. But, after intentional effort to change her self-talk and her identity, she is living the life she truly deserved. In fact, Riana recently celebrated her second wedding anniversary with a man she calls the greatest love of her life.
“I never thought it could happen for me. But, without this work, it wouldn’t have,” she said. “I had to heal first to attract something better.”
Having just turned 50, Riana isn’t slowing down. Rather, she’s doing less and receiving more. She works with intention, lives with clarity and refuses to fall into the old trap of hustle culture.
“When you get rid of the old story, you realize it never had to be so hard,” she said. “You don’t have to earn love or prove your worth. You just have to believe you’re worthy of it.”
For anyone over 50 who feels stuck in patterns that never seem to change, Riana offers encouragement.
“It’s never too late, you are not broken, nor are you too far gone. You just need a new way of clearing what’s been holding you back,” Riana explained. “And when you do, everything changes.”
For more information
People can connect with Riana on these platforms:
- Website = www.rianamalia.com
- Facebook = www.facebook.com/RianaMalia
- Instagram = www.instagram.com/rianamalia
- LinkedIn = www.linkedin.com/in/rianamalia
- YouTube = www.youtube.com/@rianamalia
